If a person, any person, whatever your previous relations have been, doesn’t want to have a sexual experience with you, any kind of sexual experience, any kind at all, whether it’s responding to flirtation or spending the weekend in bed with you or anything in between, no matter how inexplicable, strange, and downright wrong-headed that is of them, they don’t have to, they don’t need to give a reason, and you’re not allowed to make them do it.
1) “But…”
No.
2) “But what if…”
No.
3) “But maybe they…”
No.
4) “But I just want to…”
No.
5) “But you don’t understand, I was just …”
No.
6) “You’re not listening to the particulars of my very special case, I…”
No.
7) “But I don’t mean any …”
No.
8) “But I really really …”
No.
It is that simple. You do not have some other kind of deal. This is not some incredibly fraught and complex debate about balancing competing imperatives. The world doesn’t owe you any sex at all, and neither does any person in the world. There actually isn’t some kind of huge incomprehensible grey area. You only get to engage in sexual activity with people who want to engage in sexual activity with you. Also if there is any doubt at all you must ask. If you don’t want to ask because you don’t want to “break the mood” you already know the answer is no and are trying to pretend you don’t. Stop that.
I’m glad we had this little chat. Carry on, and do let me know if you have any further questions
— Commodorified gets get these sudden urges to do stuff like Solve Rape Culture Forever, and this is the result
